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Black Nerds Need Love Too

Black Nerds Need Love Too
By Rachaun Rogers

Geek: Is a slang term for odd or non-mainstream people, with different connotations ranging from "a computer expert or enthusiast" to "a person heavily interested in a hobby", with a general pejorative meaning of "a peculiar or otherwise dislikable person, especially one who is perceived to be overly intellectual".
Although often considered as a pejorative, the term is also often used self-referentially without malice or as a source of pride.

Nerd: (adjective: nerdy) is a person, typically described as being overly intellectual, obsessive, or socially impaired. They may spend inordinate amounts of time on unpopular, obscure, or non-mainstream activities, which are generally either highly technical or relating to topics of fiction or fantasy, to the exclusion of more mainstream activities. Additionally, many nerds are described as being shy, quirky, and unattractive, and may have difficulty participating in, or even following, sports. "Nerd" is a derogatory, stereotypical term, but as with other pejoratives, it has been reclaimed and redefined by some as a term of pride and group identity.

Blerd: A nerd who is of African American decent. A Black-Nerd.

The rise of nerd/geek culture and nerd/geek aesthetic has swept across American media from horn-rimmed glasses to vintage Marvel comics t-shirts. This is mainly thanks to Hipster culture and the 80's/90's nostalgia movement, which pride themselves on irony and making unpopular things popular. Black people have embraced this aesthetic but not the culture the way some other races have, so those who are black and were active the nerd culture are left out in the cold, alien to one, or sometimes both groups. This would seemingly lead to limited dating options in the black community, or does it? Are there pockets of Black nerds looking for that nerdy counter-part or is black love out there in a galaxy far, far away.

There are a number of Black nerd blogs and articles on the internet mostly run by older nerds who happen to be female. They speak about who they are, acceptance in the community and what their nerdisms are. But not one of them ever talk about who they date, who they're married to or nerdy black love at all. In a survey about half of the people who consider themselves black nerds/geeks don't actually care who they date (regarding race) but the majority of those married black nerds/geeks are married to other black nerds/geeks. Those who don't care whom they date care tend to be younger and unmarried, which raises an interesting question. Why do more older nerds marry with in their own race, how did these nerds find each other and why do those in the younger generation careless about who they date? It would appear that a number of the people in the older generation have more often than not brought out the nerd/geek tendencies in their partners, which maybe a result of them growing up in an era where shows like Star Trek were breaking color barriers and being noted favorites of a very important Civil Rights leader. The majority of those who are married seem to regard enjoyment of sci-fi and comic books as something that everyone did, most of them while being fans of fringe fun, seemed to be athletes and members of other popular social circles. Maybe the notion of solidarity and black love was more prevalent in the past and now things have changed.
"The pretty girls using skin so soft only be likin black dudes with they hats broke off/N***a you act too soft/F*** you I’m from the projects/ My mom is just working to give me options." –Childish Gambino, Firefly.

Those who are younger seem to have a hard time finding mates who are in their race and into the same things. At some point it appears that the black race became the purveyors of cool and for a long time the portrayal of nerds and geeks in media, thanks to the fictional character Steve Urkel have been lampooned in the black community. This created a stereotypical notion of what people who exhibit intelligence and/or partake in "Fringe Fun" (Comics, Sci-fi, fantasy, manga ect.) are like. They are often ostracized and viewed as undesirable and "lame."

"I knew a brotha who couldn't get a sista to save his life". Says Blacknerddating.com site creator Keith York. "He went to art school with me and he was a creative and technical genius, about 6'3 dark-skinned, he even played football in high school But sistas kept putting him in the friend zone, he tried everything. He even got Cornrow braids to try and fit in. But all he would get from sistas was 'you're too nice or let's be friends." He's now married to a white Canadian women and has 3 kids.

While the females are passed over and never approached by the popular handsome guys "I was an anomaly in my neighborhood, I was the only kid watching PBS to see "Masterpiece theater" says Kim Jackson owner of blackgirlnerd.blogspot.com. Mom would ask, why don't you date black guys and I'd reply "well they don like me back".

 After years of this it is safe to say that a person would start to notice they are different and possibly unwanted by their own. One could ask if black nerd guy and black nerd girl aren't received well by mainstream black people then why not find a love interest in the black nerd community, simple right? It would appear that most of black nerds are anomalies in their areas, as there is not yet some hidden city of Black nerds (maybe some day) they are surrounded by more conventional black folk who don't understand them. Sites like BlackNerdDating.com are working to give Blerds a chance at their kind of black love and with the advent of Manga, video games and Anime black people have begun to or come out about their nerd tendencies.  With these things in place it might be possible if not probable that a black geek and a black geekette may meet on the mountains of Mordor or the Desert wastes of Tatooien to discuss the finer things in life like who would win in a fight between Xavier's school for gifted youngsters or Hogwarts school of Wizardry..